Naturally, you would think to raise your kids the same way your mom raised you. Well I’m not. It’s just not natural to me.
It wasn’t that long ago, when having access to the internet was a rare thing. And now, there are so many resources online and crazy reality shows that convey poor values of morality. So what do you do? Do you do what everyone else does? Let your kids do whatever the hell they want to do, just to keep them quiet? Or you just want your kids to think that you’re a cool mom? There is nothing cool about letting your kids run your home.
As a family of 5, everyday is a learning experience. A mom’s worst fear is their kid getting steered in the wrong direction. I can’t speak for every mom, but I know this is my biggest fear. I know not everyone can go through life without making any mistakes. But I do believe that when your children can trust you, you will be the very first person they run to for advice. And this will eliminate bigger mistakes.
I’ve come up with a formula that has really worked for us. I am very proud to say that I really am my children’s super hero. Now do I think that they will run to me first and tell me every thing for the rest of their life? No. I just know that it takes a lot of unnecessary stress off of me. It allows me to trust their decisions. I’m sure I’m not the only mom in the world that feels this way.
Men don’t understand the work, time, effort, thoughts and energy we put in, along with this mom title. I’ve been fortunate enough to only work 3 days out of a week and be able to support my family. Honestly, the emotional support is way more work than any job I’ve ever had. After I drop my kids off at school, I run errands, clean the house, prepare meals, set up appointments, and then… I’ve got to pick them up from school already. I’ve got to help them with homework, keep them entertained when they’re done, look pretty for my husband… and people think that I’m just lucky to have 4 days off. I make it look easy, don’t I? Well, trust me, the struggle is real! I’ve been maintaining my little waistline by eating clean. My daily workout routine is staying active with the kids. The secret is in the food that I eat. (Which will be my next diary) What you put inside your body will reflect from the outside. So I can’t give my “Asian genes” all of the credit.
So yes, being a well-put together mom from the outside will automatically win half of the battle. To be a successful mom, the kind of mom that your kids and society will respect, (not that you should care how society may view you, but it may be a big deal to your kids) is to be cool, stay current, have style, and adapt yourself to this modern generation. Don’t be afraid to express who you are. Nothing is wrong with activating your creative skills. Embrace the fun in motherhood.
Do I think that I am a psychologist or a professional mom adviser, you ask? Of course not. I do enjoy reading scientific articles about the human brain. I study personalities. I’ve always had the desire to help people. And through 16 years of being a stylist, I am most attached to the relationships I’ve built with my clients. Every time I make an impact in someone else’s life or simply put a smile on their face, it reassures me that this was my purpose of existence. I believe I’ve made some excellent choices in life. And success stories should always be shared.
Am I trying to be famous? No, I’m already famous. I am super-mom in my kids’ eyes. I am a Modern Style Mom.